Setting Boundaries: Social Media Comment Sections
Setting boundaries in social media comment sections, blocking negativity, and protecting your space - because your peace > your engagement.
I wasn’t planning on writing this.
But after getting two mean-spirited comments in one week (both from other women) it got me thinking. Not just about how it made me feel, but about how easy it is to let that kind of energy sit in our comment sections, unchecked.
Comment sections are weirdly personal.
They live under your content, but they’re public. They’re part of what you create, even if you didn’t write them. And when someone leaves something negative or passive-aggressive, it doesn’t just sit there quietly. It changes the tone of the whole post for you and for everyone else who sees it.
And sure, people love to say “just ignore it” or “don’t let it get to you.” But what if it’s not just about you? What if someone else sees that comment and starts second-guessing whether they should post something of their own? Sometimes one bad interaction is all it takes to make someone feel like sharing online isn’t worth it.
Also, I’m not even famous enough to have haters. So when people show up just to be rude, it honestly feels a little absurd. Like… go touch grass.
I didn’t keep the comments for the algorithm.
The comments didn’t deserve to live on as some kind of twisted engagement booster. But weirdly, it did give me a moment of clarity (and the idea for this article). So in a roundabout way, it still got used. Just not in the way the commenters probably expected.
They’ll remain anonymous. And blocked.
Your Peace > Engagement.
There’s no Brandy Melville-sized solution here. But if something in your comment section doesn’t sit right with you, you are allowed to remove it. You don’t have to leave it up just because it technically “helps boost engagement.”
You can delete it. You can block them. You can move on. Or not. You get to decide how you want to handle it.
And if you do get a nasty comment, it’s also okay to let it influence you in a positive way. Maybe it pushes you to set clearer boundaries. Maybe it inspires content (hi✨). Or maybe it just reminds you what kind of energy you want more of.
None of us signed up to be moderators, but here we are.
And curating your own space means you care about what you're building.
Whether you address it directly, quietly delete it, or just make a mental note for next time, you’re allowed to protect your own digital corner. Be kind, or keep it moving.
Normalize blocking out negativity, one comment at a time.
❤︎ C
